如何用英語(yǔ)拒絕別人
學(xué)會(huì)拒絕別人，是你能為自己做的做好的事之一，但是，許多人都覺得這非常難。為什么呢?因?yàn)榇蠹叶枷氡凰怂矚g。諷刺的是，如果你能在適當(dāng)?shù)臅r(shí)候拒絕別人，人們才會(huì)更加喜歡你，尊重你。
Why Say No
拒絕別人的原因
1. People will respect you. People who say yes to everything in an attempt to be liked are quickly recognized as pushovers.
人們會(huì)尊重你。人們之所以言聽計(jì)從，是力圖被別人喜歡，但很快就會(huì)被認(rèn)為是容易搞定的人。
When you say no to someone you are letting them know that you have boundaries. You are showing that you respect yourself--and that is how you gain respect from others.當(dāng)
你拒絕他人的時(shí)候，你是在告訴他們，你也有底線。你是在展示對(duì)自己的尊重——這就是你贏得他人尊重的原因。
2. People will actually see you as more dependable. When you say yes only when you have the time and true ability to do a great job, then you'll gain a reputation for being dependable.If you say yes to everything, you're bound to do a bad job at everything.
人們會(huì)覺得你很可靠。當(dāng)你只有在有時(shí)間和能力做好的時(shí)候才答應(yīng)別人，你就能為自己贏來(lái)可靠的名聲。如果你對(duì)什么都是言聽計(jì)從，你一定什么都做不好。
3. When you're selective with your tasks, you'll sharpen your natural strengths. If you concentrate on the things you're good at, you'll be able to improve on your natural talents. For example, if you're a great writer but you're not so great as an artist, you may volunteer to write speeches but you shouldn't sign up to make the posters for your club. Concentrate on your strength and build your skills (and your experience) for college.
當(dāng)你有選擇性地對(duì)待你的任務(wù)，你就可以提高自己的天然優(yōu)勢(shì)。如果你將注意力集中在你所擅長(zhǎng)的事情上，你就可以改善自己的天賦。例如，如果你是一個(gè)出色的作家，但你在藝術(shù)方面則沒有什么天賦，你可能就會(huì)自發(fā)地歇一歇演講稿，但你卻不會(huì)簽約去為你的俱樂部制作海報(bào)。將注意力集中在你的長(zhǎng)處上，鍛煉自己在大學(xué)的技術(shù)(和經(jīng)驗(yàn))。
4. Your life will be less stressful. You may be tempted to say yes to people in order to please them. In the long run, you're only hurting yourself and others when you do this. You stress yourself out by overloading yourself, and you experience increased stress when you realize you're bound to let them down.
你的生活也會(huì)少些壓力。你可能為了取悅一些人而答應(yīng)他們某些事。從長(zhǎng)遠(yuǎn)看，當(dāng)你這樣做的時(shí)候，你只是在傷害你自己和他人。你使自己超載，從而不堪重負(fù)，當(dāng)你意識(shí)到你一定會(huì)讓別人失望的時(shí)候，你的壓力也會(huì)也會(huì)與之劇增。
When to Say No
什么時(shí)候應(yīng)該拒絕別人
First let's point out the obvious: do your homework.
首先指出顯而易見的：
You should never say no to a teacher, friend, or family member who is merely asking you to live up to your responsibilities. It's not okay to say no to a class assignment, just because you don't feel like doing it for some reason. This is not an exercise in cockiness.
你不應(yīng)該拒絕你的老師，朋友或家人，因?yàn)樗麄儍H僅是在告訴你，不要辜負(fù)自己的責(zé)任。你不應(yīng)該因?yàn)橐恍┰虿幌胱鼍途芙^做家庭作業(yè)。這可不是在考驗(yàn)?zāi)愕尿湴磷源蟆?/p>
It is OK to say no when somebody is asking you to step outside your true responsibilities and outside your comfort zone to take on a task that is dangerous or one that will overload you and affect your academic work and your reputation.
當(dāng)某人想讓你做職責(zé)范圍或舒適區(qū)以外的危險(xiǎn)的事，或者是增加你的負(fù)擔(dān)和影響你的學(xué)業(yè)和名譽(yù)的事，你就應(yīng)該拒絕別人。
For example:
例如
•If a teacher suggests that you become the president of a club that he or she is advising, but your schedule is already over-packed.
若如果老師推薦了一個(gè)俱樂部，建議你擔(dān)任俱樂部主席，但是你的日程表已經(jīng)排滿了。
•If a popular athlete asks you to help with his/her homework and you don't have time.
如果一個(gè)有人氣的運(yùn)動(dòng)員拜托你幫他寫作業(yè)，但你沒時(shí)間。
•If anybody asks you to do their homework for them.
如果有人讓你幫他們做作業(yè)。
•If anybody asks you to give them information that was on a test (if they have a later class with the same teacher).
如果有人讓你給他們提供有關(guān)考試的信息(如果他們跟你是一個(gè)老師，只不過(guò)是后進(jìn)來(lái)的)。
It can be very difficult to say no to somebody whom you really respect, but you'll find that you actually gain respect from them when you show enough courage to say no.
拒絕你所尊重的人會(huì)很難，但你會(huì)發(fā)現(xiàn)，當(dāng)你表現(xiàn)出足夠的勇氣來(lái)拒絕他們的時(shí)候，你實(shí)際上也得到了尊重。
How to Say No
怎樣拒絕別人
We say yes to people because it's easy. Learning to say no is like learning anything: it seems really scary at first, but it's so rewarding when you get the hang of it!
我們答應(yīng)別人某事很簡(jiǎn)單。學(xué)會(huì)拒絕就像學(xué)習(xí)其他任何事一樣：一開始似乎很可怕，但當(dāng)你學(xué)會(huì)之后，對(duì)你就十分有益。
The trick to saying no is doing it firmly without sounding rude. You must avoid being wishy-washy. Here are some lines you can practice:
拒絕別人的竅門就是，堅(jiān)定地去做，但不要使自己聽上去很粗魯。你必須避免蒼白無(wú)力的拒絕。這里有一些拒絕的話語(yǔ)可供你練習(xí)。
•If a teacher asks you to take on more responsibility than you need: Thank you for thinking of me, but I will have to say no. I'm just over-scheduled at this time.
如果老師想讓你做你職責(zé)范圍之外的事：謝謝您能想到我，但我還是得拒絕。這次我的日程表都排滿了。
•If a teacher asks you to do something you don't feel comfortable with: This sounds like it would be a great opportunity for somebody, but it's not right for me.
如果老師讓你做一些會(huì)讓你不舒服的事：這對(duì)于別人來(lái)說(shuō)真是一個(gè)好機(jī)會(huì)，但對(duì)我來(lái)說(shuō)不是。
•If somebody wants you to cheat: Sorry, I don't share my homework. That would get us both in trouble.
如果某人想讓你作弊：抱歉，我不想和別人分享自己的家庭作業(yè)。這會(huì)給我們兩人都帶來(lái)麻煩的。
•If somebody tries to push work off on you: I just don't have the time to do a good job at that right now.
如果某人把工作推給你：我現(xiàn)在沒時(shí)間去做好這項(xiàng)工作。
•If somebody tries to overload you with a task: I can't do that because I have an assignment due tomorrow.
如果某人想給你增加工作量：我不行，因?yàn)槭诸^有工作要做，明天就是截止日期了。
•If somebody tries to unload a problem on you: I understand your situation, but I don't have an answer for you.
如果某人想把麻煩甩給你：我明白你的處境，但我不會(huì)答應(yīng)你的。
When You Have to Say Yes
什么時(shí)候可以答應(yīng)別人的請(qǐng)求
There will be times when you want to say no but you can’t. If you're working on a group project, you have to take on some of the work, but you don't want to volunteer for everything. When you have to say yes, you can do it with firm conditions.
總會(huì)有一些時(shí)候，你想拒絕但又不能拒絕。如果你在做團(tuán)體任務(wù)，你就得承擔(dān)一些工作，但你不會(huì)想承擔(dān)所有的工作。當(dāng)你只能答應(yīng)別人時(shí)，你就得堅(jiān)定地去做。
A conditional "yes" may be necessary if you know you should do something but you also know you don't have all the time or resources. An example of a conditional yes is: "Yes, I'll make the posters for the club, but I won't pay for all the supplies."
如果你知道，你應(yīng)該做一些事，但你的時(shí)間和資源也是有限的，這時(shí)候有條件的答應(yīng)別人是必要的。關(guān)于有條件的答應(yīng)有一個(gè)例子：“是，我可以為俱樂部制作海報(bào)，但我不會(huì)包攬所有的事兒。”
Saying no is all about gaining respect. Gain respect for yourself by saying no when it's necessary. Gain the respect of others by saying no in a polite way.
拒絕能讓你獲得尊重。必要的時(shí)候，你要通過(guò)拒絕別人來(lái)為自己獲得尊重。在通過(guò)拒絕別人獲得尊重的時(shí)候，還要以禮貌的方式進(jìn)行。
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